Is Anxiety Taking Over Your Life?
When push comes to shove, anxiety can feel like the bully trying to steal your lunch money. Even more, it can make you feel like someone else besides you is in the driver’s seat of your life—like someone else is running the show and you’re the passive bystander watching it all happen.
While anxiety can sharpen the mind at times, leading to creative problem solving with razor sharp efficiency, when out of balance, anxiety can be paralyzing. It can level an otherwise stable person or prevent ambition from taking flight.
If left untreated, anxiety can become a burden, robbing you from what life really has to offer.
Common traits of anxiety:
Do you have trouble relaxing or unwinding?
Do you spend too much time worrying about the future or ruminating on the past?
Does your mind seem to be constantly racing or wandering? Perhaps, these racing thoughts are so intrusive that you have trouble getting things done or sleeping at night.
Are you worried about how your anxiety may be impacting your relationships, or getting in the way of you pursuing your dreams?
Do you feel paralyzed when you have to make a decision, fearing that you will make the wrong choice?
Anxiety can create other problems.
While some people feel frozen because of their anxiety, struggling to make a decision, others respond by turning to whatever will make their anxiety go away the fastest. This may work for awhile, but certain ways of coping with anxiety can lead to other complications, like addiction, unhealthy relationships, or prevent a person from pursuing what’s really important to them.
Sometimes these attempts to rid ourselves from anxiety cause us to act impulsively. We may make decisions that either get us into trouble or put our health at risk. This doesn't just affect us, but affects our ability to relate to, and be in relationship with, others.
Sadly, some people may lose relationships because of struggles with anxiety. On the other hand, others may avoid relationships altogether, feeling like there’s something inherently wrong with them—that no one will be able to love them for who they are.
Anxiety can be extremely isolating, but treatment can help.
Many people who suffer from anxiety feel alone. This is especially true if you’ve reached out for help in the past, but it didn't work out how you hoped it would. Or maybe you tried to let family or friends into your experience only to be told things like, “Just stop worrying” or “Get over it already,” as if such statements have the power to make everything magically OK. At the end of the day, all of us wish we could simply “get over” whatever it is we're struggling with, but that’s easier said than done.
Many of the struggles we face in life can leave us feeling like no one will understand, but the reality is you are not alone and there is help.
Anxiety therapy is about giving you the space you need to take back control.
If left untreated, anxiety can remain a plague in your life—not only can it affect your self-esteem and confidence, it can get in the way of you living life on your terms, completely stopping you in your tracks.
Anxiety therapy teaches you how to tune-in without getting hooked—to become better at observing your thoughts, feelings, and somatic experiences [how you experience your emotions in your body]. Anxiety therapy will take an investment on your part, but it pays tremendous dividends both in the short-term and in the long-term.
Consider the following: what you focus on controls you. Thus, if you want to control your mind, you must learn how to control your attention.
"I’m afraid anxiety therapy will make my anxiety worse."
A common fear many of our clients express is a concern that focusing on their anxiety will make it worse. While paying attention can temporarily increase how acutely we experience anxiety, it is not uncommon for people to experience dramatic relief in their symptoms within the first few sessions. This is because we take an evidenced-based approach to treating your anxiety. We not only give you practical tools to use in your day-to-day, but through in-depth exploration, we follow your anxiety to its roots.
A comprehensive, individualized approach to anxiety therapy.
Some of the methods we use to treat anxiety include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), problem solving therapy (PST), narrative therapy, existential therapy, and psychodynamic therapy. The common thread or theme throughout all of our work, however, is mindfulness.
Mindfulness is about learning to observe what's happening in the present moment while suspending judgement (or at the very least, to notice when you're judging your experience). Mindfulness has been rigorously studied, and can be found being used in major universities, hospitals, corporations, and the like.
When it comes to anxiety therapy, we draw from several different treatment modalities based on the needs of the person we are working with. We do this because anxiety, like the people it attaches to, is complex and deserving of a tailored treatment approach. In the context of a supportive, compassionate environment, we will work together to put your anxiety in its rightful place—to lower the volume on your backseat driver (or drivers) and put you back in control of your life.
"Lauren is an exceptional and talented psychotherapist. As a close colleague of Lauren's, I have come to know her style with clients, which is warm, engaging, empowering, and thoughtful. She readily puts people at ease and effortlessly creates an environment that is comfortable and safe. To work with Lauren in therapy is to feel seen and understood. Her approach is patient and supportive, while effectively motivating clients to take healthy steps forward. She is incredibly creative when it comes to tailoring her approach, forming an individualized treatment plan for each client. Outside of her office, she is a local leader in the psychotherapy field and also dedicates herself to serving her community in a number of ways. For these many reasons, Lauren has my highest recommendation. If you are interested in getting support, learning more about yourself, improving your relationships, and making healthy changes in your life, you will be in very capable hands."
- Dr. Sara Baumann, MD
You deserve to have someone who works with you instead of trying to fit you into a box. If you're ready to get started with anxiety therapy today, choose from one of the following options:
Whole Wellness Therapy is a private practice therapy collective in Fair Oaks and Sacramento, CA, specializing in helping people overcome addiction, anxiety and depression through traditional and emergent evidence-based practices.
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