Paul Singh, LMFT
“Daring Greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means showing up and being seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about what you’re feeling. To have hard conversations.”
Oftentimes, when it comes to our mental health and our relationships, we believe that it is better to say nothing and go with the flow. That enduring through difficult times and biting the bullet is better than using our voices to disrupt the cycle of dysfunction around us. We measure someone’s strength by their ability to “put up” with everything around them and believe that those who can endure the most are those that are the most daring, but what if we shifted our perspective? What if the true measure of strength is a person’s ability to stand up against the dysfunction around them and say, “Hey, what you said or did really hurt me?”
Using our voice can be incredibly difficult and at times feel so awkward because we have become used to suffocating our emotions. It is okay to have feelings. It is okay to want change. The true measure of strength is not our ability to endure dysfunction but having the courage to stand up and say, “It stops here.”
Choosing to start on a mental health journey of therapy can be incredibly difficult at times. I call it a journey because it is not a one stop shop. Therapy has many hills and valleys; times where we are riding high on the success of a major breakthrough in our lives, or sinking low, struggling to take the next step after confronting any number of difficulties. I say this not only as a therapist, but someone that has walked in your shoes as a client. I found my love and passion for this field not in the classroom but in the office of my own therapist, so when I say that strength comes from the decision to even consider therapy, I mean it.
I rely on a person-centered therapy approach, where your success as the client is my number one goal. On this journey of therapy, I will be right there with you as we dive through past traumas, unpack family dysfunction, build upon your strengths, and better understand how to grow through your weaknesses.
I rely heavily on understanding feelings and learning how to communicate them to those around you, because “You feel what you feel, and your feelings are real,” and no one can take that away from you. Whether you are choosing to work with me or anyone else here at Whole Wellness Therapy, the simple fact that you are interested in and looking into therapy is a major victory.
How I work…
I come from a background of person-centered and psychodynamic therapy with the integration of solution focused and cognitive-behavioral interventions – this means that the sole focus and goal of therapy is for you to find success in becoming a greater and more whole individual within the context of a safe and accepting space.
I also come from a place of LGBTQ+ affirming belief. I understand that there are many aspects of our identities, and I believe that those identities should be wholly accepted, allowing you to bring up anything and everything you need to within the therapeutic space. There is no shame in who you are or what you are bringing into therapy. We are all human, so come to therapy bringing your whole self.
Education:
Paul Singh, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist at Whole Wellness Therapy.
Master of Arts: Counseling Psychology, William Jessup University (2021)
Bachelor of Arts: Psychology, William Jessup University (2019)
Experience working with teens (ages 12-18) since 2013, as well as experience with the clients experiencing homelessness and addiction.
Paul provides online and in-person therapy to individuals, couples, and families.
More About Paul:
Paul is a licensed therapist in the practice and has experience working in the non-profit setting where he worked with the homeless population as well as high school students within the context of an on campus wellness center. Paul has also worked with clients struggling with addiction within a rehab setting.
Prior to becoming a therapist, Paul pursued his passion for history, and initially wanted to become a history teacher, as many of his teachers and professors helped him to get to the place he is at today.
Paul has experience working with teenagers spanning back to his own teen years. Since then, Paul has volunteered with youth in a church setting, gone overseas to work with teens in orphanages and teach English on multiple occasions, volunteered his time as a public speaker at local high schools in his hometown, and worked closely with Victims of Violent Crimes in San Joaquin County.
In his spare time, Paul enjoys listening to podcasts and reading Brené Brown books. He is especially passionate about growing himself to become a better therapist for the sake of his clients. Paul states, “I know what it is like to have therapists that have helped me and ones who have not, so it is my goal to always be one that helps my clients.”
California Board of Behavioral Sciences Registration Number: LMFT145556
Serving CA clients through secure online therapy, and in-person in Fair Oaks.
