Online Counselor in California


There is “stuck,” as in having difficulty determining one’s next step, and then there’s “stuck,” as in attempting to climb and claw our way out of “the pit.”

Both are distressing, sometimes depressing, and many times indicate long-held patterns of thinking, feeling, behaving and relating that just no longer work.


When we get stuck, we want to know what is the next step. How can I get out of this pit that I keep falling into, and stay out? How do I even know if I have a “pattern,” and how can it be changed? Why do I keep getting the same results when I really try to get better? What is wrong with me? And, is there hope for me? 

I have witnessed the struggle many individuals, couples and families go through as they try and try again to overcome chronic problems, only to fail in their own eyes or the eyes of those who love them. I have seen people do everything they can to experience healing, connection and relief, only to come up against what seems to be an invisible, impenetrable wall. 


Chronic relational problems, mental health issues, and addiction are complex. We are affected on the biological, psychological, and social level when these complex problems aren’t addressed, or when we experience relapses in old thinking, behavior and patterns. Untreated, chronic complex issues can “blow up” relationships, and if treatment is sought, it’s usually by the person with the “obvious” problem while the partner or parent remains surrounded by the rubble, still shocked and terrified, and not able to trust “this time” will be different. 

I have over 34 years of professional training and personal experience, along with over two decades of combined research and clinical experience working with individuals, couples, and families who experience both kinds of “stuck,” and are pursuing recovery from depression, anxiety, trauma, addiction/codependency, co-occurring disorders (substance use occurring with other mental health disorders), and relapse, as well as childhood/family of origin issues. All of these issues occur on a continuum, but when even moderate anxiety continues, or returns, it can be extremely helpful to get the support and expertise of a therapist


I am passionate about coming alongside people who are open and committed to their process of recovery and growth. I believe the best therapy is in the relationship in which you become empowered and I offer supportive education, skills, and reparative relationship in addressing underlying issues and lifelong patterns.


Leslie O'Neill, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist at Whole Wellness Therapy


  • B.A. Psychology, University of California, Berkeley (1983) 

  • M.A. Counseling Psychology in Life Transitions, University of San Francisco (1991) 

  • M.A. Marriage and Family Therapy, Western Seminary (2014)


  • Certified Clinical Trauma Professional Training (Level 1)

  • Brainspotting (Levels 1 & 2) 

  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Substance Use Disorders (DBT-SUD)

Leslie provides online therapy in California to individuals and groups. Couples and family therapy upon consultation.

California Board of Behavioral Sciences license: LMFT100508